Have you ever read The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz? It’s a good one, if you haven’t.
The Four Agreements are:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
I can confidently say that numbers 2 and 3 are the most difficult for me. I take a lot personally and I make assumptions often – mostly assumptions about how people feel about me.
I have been making a point to consciously remind myself that the actions of others have nothing to do with me and that I need to react to situations that arise as if I truly believe that. I have also been taking stock of what is important to me. What activities, relationships, work, and material items do I want to have in my life/do I want to give attention to? It’s a good thing. I feel it leading me to a clearer picture of the life I am headed for.
As an update, I have cut sugar almost entirely. Day two. I’ve not succeeded in cutting it from my coffee, but I have downsized the amount that I put in my coffee. I am also not eating after 9pm each day, and have upped my water intake significantly.
Until next time, friends.
Searching for Myself 